Full Transcript from 'The Bachelor' Brad Womack's Interview
Here is the full transcript as promised from yesterday's conference call with Brad Womack, the next "Bachelor"! The questions I got to ask, are in purple.
Question: So I wanted to know if after the first rose ceremony you were thinking, ‘I’m so glad I came back, or, what did I get myself into?’
Brad Womack: I think after the slap I was thinking,’ what did get myself into?’ No, I’m kidding. I was so, so happy to be back. I really was so thankful that I was asked to be back and I was very, very happy.
Question: Even Chris Harrison had said, you know, that you almost have to fall in love at the end of this, because you’re coming back. Did you feel that pressure going in and throughout that ‘if I don’t pick someone at the end, I’m screwed.’
Brad Womack: No, not at all. You know something, I almost sound like a jerk when I say this, but you know, love and all of it, I take that very seriously and not a chance would I let anyone pressure me to make any kind of decision like that, any decision at all for that matter. So, I definitely make my own decisions and felt no pressure. I can truthfully say that.
Question: Great. We are looking forward to watching you on the season. Thanks so much.
Brad Womack: Thank you. Have a good afternoon.
Question: OK, having said that, can you talk about how the experience was different this time and did you find love?
Brad Womack: I did find love and I’m very happy to say that, and very happy to be able to say that. I’m very much in love. I’m a happy guy. It was completely different for so many reasons. One, of course I was so much more open to the process and then I just had a great time, though that sounds strange, because I had a good time last time. It was just so much more fun and I don’t know, the women were so much more engaging, it was a great experience.
Question: OK. So, what do you think is different about you that made this experience different?
Brad Womack: Very expensive therapy. No, I’m kidding. OK, I try to be funny it just doesn’t work. No, I, on a serious note, I look back. I really did go though very intense therapy and all that good stuff. I just wanted to come in on the show and be my true self and let people in and it worked and so that was what was so different you know. I wasn’t closed off at all. And again it worked. I’m a very happy person right now.
Question: I’m good. Well, when we spoke back in 2007, you said and I quote, “I wouldn’t do this again, because I didn’t like being scrutinized.” So why did you choose this process again to fall in love, because like it didn’t go very well the first time.
Brad Womack: No, you’re right and that’s a great question. One, I’ve learned to never say never. I believe that this process can work and that’s the only reason I decided to do it again.
Question: How did you know that you were ready to find love again, even before the show approached you?
Brad Womack: We’ll I’ve been ready. I mean, you know, I don’t want to be a single guy and for whatever reason I’ve remained single for quite sometime. So, I’ve always wanted to find the right person and when the show approached me, I felt really, really honored to be asked again and felt like I was given a second chance. You know a very good second chance and so, I was definitely ready to find it and I thought what better way to do it.
Question: So for viewers who are sad or disappointed with the last outcome, what would you say to them to get them to watch this?
Brad Womack: Well one, and again I’m so happy to be able to say this, but one, I can promise you there is a very happy ending. I did find somebody, I did fall in love and so for the viewers that do want to see that happen, no matter who the guy is or the girl for that matter, that it happened, a true love story happened, so for no other reason. That’s a great reason to watch, because it worked.
Question: Excellent. And you mentioned, you know, you went through therapy and that you're more open to the process now, but did you do anything different? Did you approach the situation different at all this time around?
Brad Womack: Yes, actually whenever any chance I got, or any chance I had, to talk to the women individually, I was just very – I don’t know, I asked them very pointed questions, just tried to really get to know who they were, and in turn, tried to let them know exactly who I am. And I don’t think I did that last time, I was a little bit closed off. And so, I think we all got to know each other really, really well this time around and like I said, it worked and yes, I’m happy to say that it worked.
Jennifer Matarese: OK. So tell us what it was like, you know, what was going through your head when you were back at the mansion.
Brad Womack: That’s a great question. Actually it’s a very surreal feeling and I remember pulling back up and I was very anxious. I was excited of course, but I was very anxious and which in turn turned to nerves. I mean, I was a nervous wreck. So that first night was a little bit overwhelming. I thought it would be easier, because I had gone through it before and I think it made it even more difficult and I don’t know why, because I don’t know.
Remember I didn’t know what the girls were going to think that I was a bachelor again. I didn’t know how I was going to be received and so it was a very overwhelming and yes, it was just a very overwhelming evening.
Jennifer Matarese: And, on the note of the ladies. Were a lot of them apprehensive about you at first, and if so, how did you gain their trust?
Brad Womack: OK, to be perfectly honest, yes and rightfully so, you know. I feel that, quite a few questions that first night. But I think after night one, I mean I gave each and every women a chance to ask anything she wanted to ask. I was very upfront and honest and I think I calmed their fears about the fact that I was there for the right reasons. That I didn’t intend on just walking and wasting anybody’s time, so I think it went well, but the first night, it was – I spent quite a bit of time just fielding some questions about my past.
Question: As a former resident of Austin myself, when I read about your background for your first run on The Bachelor, I was thinking off the bat, why with all the beautiful and exciting girls in Austin, and you being a bar owner no less, did you ever feel the need to go mate hunting on TV.
Brad Womack: You know it’s – I’ve had that question asked quite a few times, but one, I never mix business with pleasure, ever. And so whenever I got to work at the bars, people think that I’m the guy that goes in and tries to pick up the women, but it’s anything but that. And so as you know, Austin, it’s a big city, but it can also feel quite small at times and I thought this is an incredible way to kind of break out of that mold and meet some women that I never would have met before in my normal day to day life.
Question: Are you still a bar owner there?
Brad Womack: Yes sir, yes. I can happily say we have four businesses now that are doing quite well.
Question: Well I was reading about the intensive therapy and painful soul searching you went through after the first run. I was just wondering, instead of beating yourself up about commitment issues, did you ever consider that maybe you were just simply following man’s natural instincts to propagate the species with multiple mates you know.
Brad Womack: Great question man. You know, I don’t know. It’s one of those things that, yes, looking back I will admit this. I know it sounds like I just continuously beat myself up, but I will admit that I had commitment issues. I am not a guy that runs around and tries to wind up with multiple women. So by walking away last time, yes, I looked back with a little reflection and realized there were some issues there. So I just want to fill them with one, man, I mean that’s just one woman and that’s it.
Question: So, it’s said in the press release that you get to meet with Jenni and DeAnna and the (after steps of it). Without really giving too much away, I was wondering if you could tell us anything about that and how you were feeling about that.
Brad Womack: One, it was a complete shock, because I truly had no idea they were going to be there and that’s something I – that conversation is something that I wanted to take place long before then. So, I was very happy to learn that they were there, but you know Jenni and DeAnna are very incredible women. They were not going to back down, so they were a little bit tough, a little bit tough on me, but after we talked for a while all was forgiven and the three of us moved on. So a great conversation and in some ways – actually in all ways, I gained some closure there. So I was very appreciative of the opportunity.
Question: And Brad, how did your friends and family react whenever you said that you were going to do the show again after last time?
Brad Womack: Well they were very supportive. My mother of all people, even though I am a grown man, she is very protective, so she was a little bit worried, just in case I didn’t pick anybody or wind up with anybody again. But aside from that, you know my brothers were so supportive, because they know that I was looking for somebody, I was truly looking for somebody, so they were very supportive.
Question: You said that you went through some intensive therapy. Looking back, do you think had you gone through that therapy to begin with, that maybe DeAnna or the other – I forgot her name, I’m sorry, the other woman would have been a choice?
Brad Womack: You know something, I don’t know. I don’t know how to answer that, because – and that’s a great question. Would I have – maybe I would have stuck around and at least given the relationship a chance instead of just walking away. Now I can truly say I would never would have proposed on that day, but I very well may have given a relationship a chance and seen what could have happened once we moved on, instead of just abruptly walking away.
Question: So in the immediate aftermath of the first go around of the show, people were frosty to you, people were openly hostile to you. Is that part of what compelled you to take a good long look at your self and decided to change?
Brad Womack: Absolutely. In fact, David, I can say this man, it was brutal. I mean, people didn’t hold back at all. In Austin people were really supportive, but elsewhere it got pretty bad and people let me know exactly what they were thinking and it wasn’t good thoughts. It got pretty tough for a while.
Question: Well I remember, I interviewed an actor who was on “30 Something” and he had a particular episode where he was really nasty to the woman in his life and the next day somebody slapped him across the face in a grocery store and he was just playing a character, so I guess I could imagine. Is it barely possible that it affected your dating life afterward? I mean, a TV show is like having someone being able to check you out on Google, times 10.
Brad Womack: Yes it is, and yes, it did affect my dating life. One, after the show ended or after the finale aired, I took it upon myself, I didn’t even want to go on dates, I didn’t even want to date, but then once I did try to get out in the dating world. Yes, my eyes opened a little bit, because you’re right. People knew everything about me and some girls were just plain uninterested in getting involved in that. So, I mean there was a national feeling of the fact that I couldn’t commit. So yes, it did affect it negatively, not – it wasn’t a positive thing at all.
Question: I’ve been reading all the promo stuff coming out and I am pretty impressed with you and so on and so forth. As I am sitting here listening on the telephone, I’m wondering, gee, you pretty much sold this all on. Where is the controversy left in this show?
Brad Womack: That’s a good question. I don’t know, I don’t know if it takes controversies to sell this show, I have no idea, but I’m happy to say you know, not too much drama is heard. There are some really, really good women and we all had a great time and so I hope that doesn’t make for a boring season. I know it was exciting for me and I’d like to think for the women as well.
Question: Good, good. Now, here’s a tough question. We know you’re a bar owner and you’ve added another bar to your life or whatever, but have you really got. When you take a look at the hooking up game and getting married, you know it’s pretty traditional that the guy says, ‘what have I got to offer this woman?’ What have you got to offer the woman that you are probably going to propose to?
Brad Womack: Well, I’ll tell you. I’m like – gosh, I’m about to sound cheesy, but I like to think that I have a lot of love to offer. I really do. I mean, I want to be an incredible husband. I want to be, if and when the time comes an incredible father and so that’s all I’ve ever wanted, a really wholesome family life. So, you know I could care less about material things or anything like that, but I am very confident that I have quite a bit of love to give a woman and I’m ready to do that. So I think I’d make her a happy woman. I truly feel that way.
Question: Just finishing up with that line, I’m now suspecting that any woman that you propose to has to move to Austin.
Brad Womack: Well, I’m very happy here and I know love is all about compromise, I get that, I’m learning these things, but God. Anyway Austin, yes, I don’t have any plans on moving anywhere just because – you know, I spent 10 or 11 years trying to build a career and I have some roots planted here. So yes, I consider Austin my home and yes, I would ask a woman if she’d be comfortable moving to Austin. I don’t plan on going anywhere.
Question: My question was, a lot of my ones have been asked already. You are 37 right?
Brad Womack: Thirty-eight now, turned 38 in November.
Question: Well, happy birthday.
Brad Womack: Well, thanks very much.
Question: The Bachelor tends to attract a lot of women who are pretty young, you know, early 20s, mid 20s. Was that a concern of yours going in, that it would a really big age difference between you and most of the bachelorettes?
Brad Womack: You know something. Let me say this. I’ve never thought about age until now, because I’m beginning to realize I’m an old guy. But no, age has never been an issue. I think that age is just a number, but I’m more concerned about maturity level and things like that.
So age never bothered me. I don’t know if it bothered any of the women. It was brought up a time or two in a joking matter, but that’s about it. So no, age doesn’t matter to me at all. It’s all about a woman’s maturity level, that’s all I care about.
Question: My question is, it seems like even when the bachelors and bachelorettes do find love, the tough part comes after the fact in dealing with the tabloids and the public scrutiny. Are you and your special lady friend ready to weather that kind of public storm?
Brad Womack: You know, I think so. I’m going to be honest. You know, I have a very thick skin that developed I guess from last time. I can honestly say, I don’t read any of it, I really, really don’t. So hopefully, I can be the guy that calms her fears or any concerns that she has. You know, I just don’t let things like that bother me and I hope she doesn’t either.
I don’t know, there is a lot of good and there is a lot of bad that’s comes with this, and I think we are up to the challenge of getting through it.
Question: I just wanted to ask you about, did you have a favorite date? I think the show is going to a lot of exotic places. Can you talk a little about that?
Brad Womack: I can. I know I can’t get too specific, but I’ll tell you this. My favorite location was South Africa and the dates that occurred there were just – I mean they were some of my life long dreams, they truly were and so I had such a good time there. It was a beautiful country. Yes, it just – all of the dates that occurred on South Africa were my favorites. I know that’s a vague answer and I apologize.
Question: So you can’t tell me if there's specifically something exciting or…
Brad Womack: I don’t think I can get into that kind of thing. And it wasn’t you know, adrenalin feel or anything like that. It was just amazing; it was a lifelong dream of mine. So I was very grateful to have been able to do it.
Question: So, you touched on some of my question, but you mentioned being on reality TV has a lot of good and bad that comes with it. So what were your initial concerns and why did you finally go though it at the first time around?
Brad Womack: The first time around. I’ll tell you my initial concern is, believe it or not, I’m actually a really, really shy person, in fact painfully shy. And so my concerns – it wasn’t – they weren’t so much wrapped around the fact that I was about to be on TV. It was more of, I don’t think I realized that my life would be such an open book, and I didn’t realize that until afterwards.
So I know you asked what my initial concerns, I guess I was afraid of the unknown and how public my life was going to become and then I found out really quickly of course that. I mean my God, all that and my life became an open book.
Question: When did you realize that? Like what was the first sign of that for you?
Brad Womack: Well, as soon as it was announced the first time that I was going to be the Bachelor, I mean just you know, you can go online and read pretty much anything about my past and that’s when I stopped doing anything. It was crazy. The reach that you know reality TV has and I don’t think I was aware of that until I got into it for the first time.
Question: And do you think once this is over and you do find love that you’ll be able to go back to Texas and just live in obscurity after a certain point?
Brad Womack: Yes, 100 percent. Austin is a really cool town and people don’t care. You know, they don’t get – for the most part people don’t get wrapped up into anything, so yes, and that’s all I want to do. I want everything to air, to have the very happy ending and just continue on with my life. That’s all I want to do.
Question: I had a very quick question about a woman from my area. Her name is Marissa from Kissimmee. Can you tell me anything about her?
Brad Womack: Incredible woman. Lot of fun and a very, very good woman and yes, I think that’s about as specific as I can get, but yes, great, great girl. I was lucky to have had her there. Great girl.
Question: I’m wondering if you – I’m very late on this call. I wanted to ask you about the promotion of the show, the one clip of the woman slapping you, which plays over and over again.
Brad Womack: Yes, don’t remind me…
Question: I’m sorry.
Brad Womack: No, I said please don’t remind me. I was just kidding, sorry.
Question: Well, I’m just wondering, what’s your reaction to that and is it misleading? I mean what would you say; does it set up what’s coming on the show?
Brad Womack: Well you know, I know there were some concerns among the women that I was the Bachelor again and so – and I will tell you this, the slap, unfortunately, was very real. So, now I don’t know if it's a trailer of what’s to come, because everyone calmed down a little bit. It shocked me, of course, but we moved on. We talked about it. We laughed it off and moved on. So but it was a very, very really slap, no double about it.
Question: I’m very well, thank you. I was just curious, you know going into this the second time where a lot of women are going out with you already. Obviously some of them have seen you before and maybe wanted you even more than the women did the first time. Did you find that there was an increased sense of competition among these women because of who you are?
Brad Womack: Well, I’ll tell you, I don’t know if it had anything to with me, but the women were very, very competitive. They are really competitive. I mean there were some rose ceremonies, I’m sorry, cocktail parties before the rose ceremonies that were down right overwhelming as far as, you know, it's inevitable that women try to steal you away and have private conversations. It seemed that that happened more, sort of this go around, than last time. So I don’t know what’s the cause for that, but yes, very competitive women. They made it very well known that they wanted to have their individual time. It was a lot of fun.
Question: So will we see a lot of drama then between the girls and do you feel like they got along better or worse than the girls did in the first round?
Brad Womack: You know that’s a great question. I was told there was drama happening back at the house when I wasn’t around. So it's going to be interesting. I’ll watch it exactly when you watch it, you know what I mean. I mean I have no idea, but there were murmurs of drama going on back at the house that I just wasn’t aware of at that time. So I’m going to be anxiously watching or awaiting those episodes to see what really happened back at the house when I was gone.
Question: And what would you say to, you know, naysayers out there who might say,’ well, of course he found love this time. He had to after what happened the first time.’
Brad Womack: Well I’ll tell you – you know I don’t know what else to say, and again, I don’t want to sound any way, but I didn’t feel like I had to do anything. I never felt like I have to do anything and again, truthfully I can say, if I didn’t find love, I would have walked away again. Even though I would have been publicly exiled, I would have walked away again. So I didn’t feel pressure, but I’m happy to say I did fall in love and I’ve very, very happy. So I’m grateful to have had a second chance.
Question: Hi Brad, I know you can’t comment too much on individual bachelorettes, but can you tell me if Madison wore her fangs all the time or are they permanently fixed.
Brad Womack: She did remove the fangs once, but my God, Dan, it was just strange. She is very attached to them, both literally and figuratively. She wears them proudly with some interesting, conversation every time I had the chance to talk to Madison. But for the most part she was always with fangs.
Question: And speaking about being pressured to make a choice this time, on your first run were you given the option to walk away without any choice made.
Brad Womack: Was I given the option?
Question: Yes, on the very first show, the first one, did you know that you had the option to just say ‘well, no thanks.’
Brad Womack: Well, yes of course. I mean it's real life whether people believe that or not. So yes, I made it very clear, I was there to fall in love, but if I didn’t, I was going to walk away. And so I knew I had that option. No one had to tell me that, just because I really do look at this as my very real life and so yes, unfortunately, I did walk away without choosing anybody.
Question: So I’m thinking, even though you left both girls at the altar, you know you are a handsome guy, you are on TV, you’re well off. I’m finding it hard to believe that no woman wanted to date you all the time from The Bachelor.
Brad Womack: Right. Yes, you’re right. No, I purposely took my self out of the dating world and you know I went on dates, but very little. You know four or five dates over a three-year span. I became a very lonely guy. But no, I really did whenever I said that I slacked and just kind of look at myself and figure out what the hell the problem was. That’s exactly what I did. And so I didn’t want to date at that time. It was kind of a strange time in my life, but I don’t know, I think it helped; it helped me become whoever it is that I am today. So it helped.
Question: Did you ever think that it had nothing to do with you and those two were just the wrong girls for you?
Brad Womack: Yes, I mean of course, of course I thought that and, you know – I mean I looked – you know again, yes of course I thought that, but at the end of the day I always think that, would I have pursued a relationship with DeAnna? And again, I think I answered this before, as far as I wouldn’t have proposed, but I don’t want to blame it on the girls because they were such good women, they really were.
Yes, maybe they were the wrong girls, I don’t know. I really don’t know, but I kind of feel bad because I should have given a relationship a shot. I truly fell that way, I’m not just saying that because I think I’m told to say that, may be I should have give it a shot just to see what would have happened.
Question: Yes, then if it had failed, it would have just been a waste of your time. So I mean I’m glad you’re self respected, but I don’t think you should blame yourself entirely. If they weren’t the right woman, they weren’t the right woman, period.
Brad Womack: Well, thanks. I actually really appreciate that point of view more than you know, but thank you for saying that.
Jennifer Matarese: Hey, so you just said you wanted to pretty much go back to your private life after this is all said and done, but if you do end up getting engaged and you do go ahead with marrying whoever you selected here, would you even consider having your wedding on ABC or on TV?
Brad Womack: You know something, that’s a really good question. And I’m not so sure about that. If and when I get married, that day is going to be all about my wife and so it's up to her. Again, I said this before, I’m kind of – believe it or not kind of a shy person and that day is very sacred to me. But again, it really is all about her and what we would decide. I really haven’t even though about that.
Oh, that’s a good question. You now that’s a really good question. I think I’m breaking out into cold sweat just thinking about it, but I don’t know. I said earlier too, you know, never say ‘never.’ I don’t know. I haven’t thought about it. It's definitely her decision if and when that happens.
Jennifer Matarese: OK, so it's not off the table.
Brad Womack: I guess not. Thanks.
Question: Somewhat during this season you probably had a high humor moment that you can still probably chuckle at. You want to share it with us?
Brad Womack: Yes, in fact – I’ll tell you this. It had something to do with Madison who we were just talking about, but now I have to tell you, it was to a point I couldn’t even interview at the moment because I was laughing so hard and I know for a fact that Cathy won’t let me get too specific, but rest assured it is hilarious. I mean I literally couldn’t even speak, I was laughing so hard.
Question: Hi, I was thinking about it a lot already, but I was just wondering if you could you go on a little bit more without being too specific about the woman you did like and what kind of person she is like without.
Brad Womack: I’ve always wanted to wind up with somebody that is just genuinely sweet and that is just as much of a friend as anything else and so I found that and you know it's someone that makes me want me to be a better person and I know that’s still vague and I would – trust me, I wise I could tell you so much more, but just genuinely sweet and very much a friend and I found that.
I hope you enjoyed this interview!
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