Full Transcript of Shawntel's Interview
Here is the full transcript of Shawntel's interview! She goes into detail about her feelings about each of the three remaining ladies and which one she feels is right for Brad. She also talks about how there was creepy funeral music edited in for portions of her hometown date.
Shawntel Newton: You know, it was a little of both. I kind of thought, you know, I just might as well lay all my cards out on the table with Brad. And him coming to Chico, I mean this is my job. This is where I grew up with and I thought if he wants to get down on his knee and propose to me, I mean he might as well come into the funeral home and see, you know, what I grew up around and what I do. So I kind of just thought well let's just do this.
Question: So, now looking back, do you regret that choice at all?
Shawntel Newton: No, I don't regret it at all because, I mean, usually I don't take a guy on a first date to a funeral home. But in a situation with, you know, being that we have so many weeks to, you know, fall in love. And I was falling in love with Brad. And I thought well this is going to be it and it's kind of like I said on TV, it's the final test almost to see if he could handle this. So I don't regret it, I don't.
Question: Do you think that the conversation you had with your parents about maybe leaving the family business to move to Texas is something that should have happened when Brad wasn't there. And do you think it affected his decision at the end of the day?
Shawntel Newton: That's a good question. And because the question never has really come up with my family with me leaving Chico, I kind of always thought that I would be staying in Chico probably taking over this business. So it's never been brought up and then I think they were a little surprised when I went on the show, I had no idea who the Bachelor was.
And then, you know, learning Brad's from Austin. He wants his wife to be there. I thought OK, wow, well here I am falling in love with him, so I'm willing to move. And I just think it was a shock to my family too for me to come home and be like OK guys, I'm falling in love and this may change some things. So they were shocked.
Question: Did being on the show though open your eyes to maybe a life outside of Chico or are you back to feeling like this is where you belong?
Shawntel Newton: No, it definitely opened up my eyes to a lot of different things. I love – I have such passion for the funeral industry. But not just the traveling and everything but falling in love with someone that doesn't live in Chico. I was like well there is, you know, life outside of my little town of Chico and it's a good world out there. And it did get me excited for new opportunities or, you know, maybe even moving to Austin, like I told Brad that I would do for him.
Question: It sounds as if you're ready to get married but you just need to find the right guy. Is it hard to find good guys in Chico or do you think it is your profession that keeps people from getting serious?
Shawntel Newton: I think it's a little of both to be honest. I being a funeral director has challenged my love life a lot. You know, when I go on a date with a guy, you know, once we start talking about “OK, so what do you do?” And, you know, I start talking about the funeral industry, it's like a step back. It's like OK wow, that's different.
And then growing up in Chico I know a lot of the guys my age because we all went to school together. We played sports together, went to church together. So – and I probably wouldn't date them, not – just because I grew up with them. So it's all like a little family.
But also being a funeral director has challenged that as well, so it's a little of both.
Question: OK and then what did you learn on The Bachelor that you could pass on to other women who might want to be on in the future?
Shawntel Newton: That's a good question, I've had – my girlfriends even ask like, gosh, would you recommend this let's say to your little sister or to any of our other girlfriends. And it's something that I wouldn't, you know, suggest anyone just right away within a snap of a finger saying, “yes I want to do it.” It's something that you really need to think about because it's a really true test of your character.
That's what I learned from myself, coming back from the show. I was just like, wow, I really learned about myself. You're secluded from your family and your friends and you really only have yourself to, you know, whether it's fall in love or to just really what kind of person you are in these different, awkward situations.
And so it's not that I wouldn’t not recommend it, but it's something that, you know, people need to think about and realize OK, these situations I'm going to be put in are not normal. And am I going to be able to handle that or not with cameras in my face?
Jennifer Matarese: So, what was your family's feeling about Brad after meeting him?
Shawntel Newton: You know, my family did like him a lot. My mom's side of the family is from Alabama. They've got that, you know, that like southern little charm. And so I was like my mom is going to just love him. And you don't see me and my mom talking to him as much but she thought he was just a doll. She really did.
I think they were just hesitant because everything came at them at once. You know, me coming to them and just saying you guys, I'm falling in love. I'm in love with this man and I might be moving to Austin. It was a huge shock for them and like my gosh, so now our daughter might be completely leaving this lifestyle we have here in Chico that we're so comfortable with, and now might be, you know, moving out of state.
And so I think it was just a shock for them. But they really did like Brad. They can tell that I was in love and that I was happy. And I haven't been in love in a very long time.
And the last time I was, I was – it was not – it wasn't good, it was a very unhealthy relationship. So they – I think they were refreshed actually see a man that you know was treating their daughter well.
Jennifer Matarese: And have you been able to move on pass this or do you still kind of feel heartbroken over the experience?
Shawntel Newton: You know, since it's been a little while, I'm OK. I kind of compare this a lot to someone who has had a death and has lost a loved one because we go through the same stages as you do with a death. So, with me losing Brad, you know, I allowed myself to get angry, to start bargaining and wonder ‘gosh could I have done something different’ you know, almost in denial maybe?
And I allowed myself to go through these different stages of grief in a healthy way. And I am, you know, I'm not in love with him anymore. And like I said in the limo, I was very, you know, I wish Brad the happiest. I thought he was just an amazing person. And all I want for him is to be happy. And I think he got really lucky with the girls he had to choose from because, you know, he had some really great girls there.
Question: So in your final words, you said you didn't see your elimination coming after Brad met your whole family. Can you talk about how you think your hometown date went with Brad because you must have thought it went really well even though the editing may have suggested otherwise to some viewers.
Shawntel Newton: Right, I did think it went as well as it could with Brad, you know, laying on prep table, being at the funeral home, which is very – that's a lot to take in a date and then meet my family who Brad can obviously see is having a hard time taking this all in. But I think why I said that it was a shock to me is because I really thought that he accepted my job and was OK with it, and was going to still allow me to go one step further to maybe talk to him more about that because it was like it – he and I didn't have a lot of time as you saw at the very end when I tell him I am now in love with you.
It was like minutes to where then he leaves and it's the rose ceremony. And I had wished he would still allow us a little more time you know to explore kind of OK, what did you think about this funeral home.
And, you know, my family -- like I said -- even though my family wants me to stay, I'm willing to move. And I just was – that's why I was very shocked. I really thought I would have at least kind of that one next step to explore it even more. But, you know, unfortunately he, you know, just wasn't feeling the same.
Question: OK and how big a role do you think your dad letting Brad know that you moving to Austin would be forcing you to, you know, change your life's plan and ruin, you know, what your family had planned for you to take over the funeral home business? So what kind of role do you think that played in Brad's decision to let you go?
Shawntel Newton: Well I think on Brad's part it had a big role. I think he really saw that my dad was having a hard time allowing this. He did give his blessing. But Brad really – I think Brad felt uncomfortable and I think he was like, wow, Shawntel's family is not really in support of this. For me, I was up front with my dad and I said, you know, what things are going to work out. I'm in love with this man.
If he proposes to me, it's going to work out. And, you know, we – I might be moving to Austin or I probably will be moving to Austin. So there, you know, there was a strong role with my family but I stuck up for myself in saying that Brad, if he proposes to me, you know, I'm going to end up moving to Austin and it's going to work out and it's going to be OK.
Question: Going into The Bachelor, obviously you didn't know who the Bachelor was going to be. Does Brad fit the type of guy you usually date or was he like a totally new type for you?
Shawntel Newton: Brad was a completely new type for me. And I don't have a lot of men I can compare him to because in you know my past relationships I've had two guys that I've been in love with. I've dated, but as far as calling them my boyfriend and, you know, being in love, there’s been two: One in high school, which is hard to compare because I was so young. And then two years ago, I had a boyfriend and it was a very unhealthy relationship. And, you know, he was someone I tried to rescue and I was being drowned in the process. So when I met Brad, totally fresh and new, this southern gentleman that I was like, I didn't even know this existed. And I even said in the show that I didn't even know this love existed because I haven't felt something like this before. And it could be because I haven't, you know, had this amazing man in my life yet, that I've, you know, fallen in love with. So it was all refreshing and very new to me and I absolutely loved it.
Question: And do you have any regrets about telling Brad or your family that you were falling in love with Brad?
Shawntel Newton: No, I have no regrets at all telling Brad that I was in love with him. It was – I mean -- already an uncomfortable situation telling him that I was not only falling in love but then at the end after he met my family that I'm in love because I know that he can't say that back to me. And that's uncomfortable for a woman or a man to be in a situation like that. But I put myself out there and I said, you know, what I want you to know this is how I'm feeling. And that's who I am. I'm, you know, I'm very comfortable with my feelings and telling people how I feel. And I wanted him, you know, to know.
Question: Hey there, I wonder now that you've seen the other dates and things, do you feel like he made the right decision to let you go?
Shawntel Newton: Well, I had a hard time now also watching it because since, you know, he's been on these one-on-one dates that I never went on and didn't see. And when we came into our last rose ceremony, and a huge reason why I said ‘gosh I was really shocked’ because when he called up Ashley H., I had thought – I personally had thought SHE was going home. And I thought I was going to be the one staying.
So it was really – it was a shock to me because I knew that she hadn't told him that she was falling in love or in love with him and I had. And I was just like, OK he's letting a girl go, you know, that has put herself out there and has really expressed that she's, you know, in love and, you know, willing to kind of leave her life here in Chico and go to Austin when you have another girl that hasn't. And, you know, I – it was just – it was a shock to me in many ways.
Question: Do you – I mean you've had interaction with the women that are left for quite a few weeks. And, you know, do you see them with him? I mean, do you see like, say Ashley, for instance who hasn't expressed that she's in love with him or willing to move or any of these things that he seems to really want out of a wife. Do you think that they – the girls left have a potential of actually becoming his wife and lasting?
Shawntel Newton: I – my personal opinion is he is in love with Emily. And I think he has been for a while. And I've ignored that when I was with him. There was a rose ceremony where we were all sitting down and he asked Emily to step aside with this beautiful basket of wine and cheese. And it was hurtful and we were just like my gosh, wow, you know.
And I even said like, are you ready to go get married now? And I've just kind of seen that with Brad like I don't know. That's just personally who I think. I think Emily's everything he wants. She has a child and I think he wants to, you know, be the father to her child.
And she's, you know, wanting to, you know, get married and have more kids. And he loves that and wants that.
Not that I don't want that either. I, of course, want to get married and have kids otherwise I wouldn't have gone on the show. But I think Emily -- she already has what he wants. And that's personally what I think.
Question: Hi, Shawntel, thank you so much for joining us today. So the last three girls are very different from each other. I don't think you can get like any opposite from all three of them. So, what do you think is, you know, each of their strengths and each of their weakness, like we'll start with Emily. I know you said she has a daughter and, you know, Brad is drawn to her.
Shawntel Newton: I think Emily, I definitely think Brad is drawn to Emily. I think not only is he attracted to her but I think he just – he has this motherly, you know, side with, you know, her little daughter Ricki. And I think that Emily has a lot of strengths. She's a strong woman for this, you know, for this tragic, you know, incident that happened in her life with her ex, you know, her fiancé at the time and being so young.
And, you know, when she would talk about that, sometimes I would be like, my goodness, you know, this is the love of her life and that which will be with her for the rest of her life. And, you know, being Brad I was, you know, a little bit and Brad even said this to her, you know, that's hard to live up to, you know. You've had your love of your life, who, you know, sadly passed away. And to replace that -- I don't think will ever happen. And so that, you know, for Brad is probably a scary thing.
Question: And how about the other two girls?
Shawntel Newton: For Chantal, she, you know, her emotions are getting to her. They have been on the show. But, you know, the situations we're put in, it's so hard not to. You know, unfortunately, I think they've got, you know, they've gotten to her. But she also – she's an amazing – I – Chantal is a girl that I got really close to on the show. And she cares for Brad so much and she was the first one to tell Brad I love you. And I'm here for you and I already have these feelings. And I think Brad was attracted to that, her honesty, you know, with him.
Question: Yes, definitely and how about Ashley?
Shawntel Newton: Ashley, she's fun and spunky and it kind of makes anyone feel young and lively. And I think Brad's really attracted to that. He's, you know, she's – I think she's 26 and so when – I think when he's with her he just feels, gosh, I'm like – we're like these kids, like having fun. And you know as far as weaknesses go, she would constantly say to him I need that reassurance. I need that, I need. Kind of like well, OK, well we all want that, every single girl here wants that reassurance.
And he knows that. And you keep using this word in these situations we're put in but it's the truth. These are very abnormal situations. But she would constantly say “where's my reassurance?” And we're all kind of like OK we get it. We all need the reassurance. We all want to know that he wants us here.
Question: And now out of the final three, who do – who are you closest to?
Shawntel Newton: I was closest to Chantal. You know she – I mean it was kind of ironic when the first night we both met, we're like Chantal and Shawntel. It's a very uncommon name …so we kind of already liked that. But she was just a really great girl. And she was a very, you know, wears her heart on a sleeve – her sleeve -- kind of girl. And so am I. I'm very open with things. So she and I just had good, you know, good, deep conversations.
And she was someone that I was like, you know, if I don't have love out of this, at least I have a friend. I mean and I have a couple other girls that I felt that I could be good friends with after. But out of the three, Chantal was you know the closest that I was with.
Question: So, I was curious obviously it's really, really hard to leave the competition on after Brad's just met your family and you've bonded over that. Would you have preferred at all to have gone the week before the hometown dates or are you quite happy it played out as it did and he did get to meet your family and you shared that?
Shawntel Newton: You know, I am – could not have been happier the way everything happened because this was a huge thing for me to go on a show like this. My sisters, I don't know if anyone knows the background to this. My two younger sisters signed me up for the show. I had never in my life have I watched a season of The Bachelor or Bachelorette.
This was all new to me. You know, we show up in a limo and they're like, this is Brad Womack. And I'm like, I don't know who Brad Womack is. And so, you know, I had no expectation. My family's so close to me but to be able to have the chance to bring Brad back to my home and to have him meet my family couldn't have been better.
And even though disappointedly, you know, I went home, but at least my family was able to be a part of this experience with me and that was a huge thing to me. And, you know, I couldn't have helped at first, you know, when Brad sent me home. I'm like, my gosh, does this have to do with my family? Do you not like my family? You know, no one can help but think that. But honestly for myself it was just like, you know, I'm thankful that my parents and my two younger sisters who put me up to this got to be a part of it.
Question: Yes and OK so you hadn't watched the show before you were on it. Has anything surprised you from watching it, knowing, seeing things that happened or comments that are said?
Shawntel Newton: Well, of course, you know, with the one-on-one interviews that some of the girls have that, you know, you're watching and you've never, you know, obviously heard what they had to say until now. But, you know, as far as, you know, we're filmed all day, every day and yet not as much is used and you don't see. So that amazes me, like, my gosh, wow we get (inaudible) but so little shows. And it's like, my goodness.
But it makes sense why they do that because they want as much you know stuff as they can so they can (inaudible) it. But, you know, for the most part I think it was better that I had no expectations going into this. You know, a lot of the girls were like we know when the date card comes. And I was like, I don't even know what a date card is. You know and I think it was better that way to have no expectations on the show and to just kind of go with it.
Question: Thanks so much for doing this, I’m going to turn away from the last episode that you were on basically, but what was, your best memory so far the entire time you were on the show, what was your best memory with Brad?
Shawntel Newton: Oh, my goodness, my best memory with was in Anguilla. I was just – it was so funny to watch myself on my little interview because I’m like I am tripping out right now. Like this is like my best date ever, that literally was the date that stands out even over hometowns, over anything. Like that riding bike with him, going to a farmer’s market, just was oh, my gosh, just it couldn’t of gone better. There was little baby goats and I love going to petting zoos and I got to see the animals and I was like, OK, this is a little too perfect.
And then, you know, our conversation was so good, I loved watching him interact with the locals, playing dominoes and just – it felt like there were no cameras there and it was just he and I in this cool town having fun. And that’s when I fell in love with Brad, that’s when I was like, I can see myself spending the rest of my life with you because we can be in a setting where it’s not overly done.
We didn’t have helicopters, we didn’t have, you know, too extravagant, it was a farmer’s market with these amazing locals in Anguilla and we’re just having a good time.
Question: Yes, well it definitely seemed like a good time and it was much different from the other dates that have happened. The one-on-one dates, but now in your future with the Bachelor do you see yourself doing anything with like Bachelor Pad or anything in the future at all? Or if you were given the chance to be the next Bachelorette, would you take it?
Shawntel Newton: As far as the Bachelorette goes, I think I would, I think to be the Bachelor or the Bachelorette, you know, you really have to be a strong emotional person and as we can see Brad was. I mean this was his second go around, you know, and you are talking a lot. You’re doing a lot of interviews. You’re up late and you need to be able to handle that and I think I am one that could do that. As far as Bachelor Pad goes, I probably wouldn’t do that, actually I know I wouldn’t.
Nothing against the show I know I would watch it because I’ll probably know some of the girls from my season but that’s just something I wouldn’t, you know, put myself up to. But The Bachelorette, different story, yes, I would probably do that.
Question: Hey, Shawntel, I was just wondering, you said that, you know, you are OK with Brad now, you weren’t in love with him any more but how – I mean when you watch him now on TV how do you feel about him?
Shawntel Newton: It was, you know, in the beginning it was weird. It was hard to watch, especially when he would go on these one on-one-dates with the girls and, you know, he’s making out with them. He’s telling them how he feels about them and then it comes my turn and he’s kind of saying the same things as he did the other girls, so it’s different and I kind of knew that going into this.
OK, this is going to be hard to watch, you know, but it’s different because I’m not in love with him so it makes it a little easier. But, it was, you know, it was something that sometimes I was like, OK, I don’t need to watch him making out anymore with someone else. But, I mean again the situations they’re just, they’re awkward, and they’re abnormal but it helps that I, you know, I was able to take the time when I was off the show until it started to kind of heal and be better and so that helped, you know, coming into, OK, the seasons about to start.
Question: OK, and as far as doing the next Bachelorette what did you learn on the show, I know that you said it’s a lot of work but what did you learn emotionally on the show that you would take into being the next Bachelorette should or if you decide or if it happens?
Shawntel Newton: Well, I think, you know, when I went on to the Bachelor I was already like, you know, OK, I’m a pretty strong person. I think being a funeral director it helps with that because I have to control my emotions when I’m a funeral director.
I have to professionally separate myself from these families and I think going on to the show, you know, I was like, OK, I’m going to be open with this man and I’m going to be open with the girls and I did really well at doing that. As I watched myself even though I was like, you know, I’m very proud of myself and how, you know, I handled these weird situations and I think there was, you know, as far as anything I would change if I was the Bachelorette it’s more like I’m prepared now to be – if I was to be the Bachelorette.
Because of these interviews, these talking a lot with different people and of course it’d be a different situation being the Bachelorette because now you’re – you’ve got these 25 or 30 guys that you’re individually talking to.
But it's kind of like, you know, you’ve been prepared now to do that and that was the difference with Brad, he wasn’t a contest for The Bachelorette at all. He was just a Bachelor so a lot of the girls would say to him you don’t really know how we’re feeling in this situation.
And that was something that he didn’t really understand when it came to, well, gosh it was just hard for us. You know, we’re watching you go on these other dates with other people and, you know, we’re telling you that we’re, you know, falling in love and he couldn’t compare to that. He couldn’t say I know how that feels.
Question: Yes, so I was wondering on your hometown date would you say that Brad scares easily after that little embalming demonstration?
Shawntel Newton: Oh, my gosh, yes. You know, I was really hesitant to ask Brad to sit on my table, but I thought, you know, he was so infatuated with the embalming process when we were in Vegas. He was asking me all these questions and I probably wouldn’t have had him lay on that prep table if he didn’t in Vegas. If he wasn’t like, “Shawntel tell me about this embalming process, this is so intriguing.” So I thought, well, OK, you’re intrigued by my science part of my job so why don’t you lay on my prep table and I’ll really kind of give you an idea of what I do, you know? And I think it creeped him out a little bit, it would creep anyone out who’s not in the business.
But I thought, you know what? I’m going to lay all my cards out for you, Brad, and you – if you are comfortable with this, keep me, if not just, you know, I guess you’re going to send me home. And being a funeral director has completely challenged my dating life I will tell you that.
Question: Well, you seemed very, like, passionate about what you do and it seemed like you have a very healthy attitude about it. I was just wondering like what do you love about your job and do you love it?
Shawntel Newton: Oh, my gosh, I love, love my job and it’s weird to say, this is going to sound funny but I didn’t when I was young. I was like, oh, this is weird, Dad, that you do this job, you know. I would go in the prep room with him and sit on the counter while he was embalming or, you know, going on removals. I would be, you know, at the funeral home and as I grew up I started working for him.
And I was, like, thinking I was going to become, you know, a psychologist or something, and then my Dad was like, why don’t you work for me a little bit just, you know, I’ll pay you some money, you know, while you’re going to school and I started going on removals with him. I started assisting in embalming. We get to assist in autopsies. We work a lot with the elderly and I was like, oh, my gosh. Science, elderly and psychology are three things that I have passion, you know, for and within the funeral industry that’s all there.
So I was like, wow, this is like everything I really do enjoy with the psychology part of these grieving families and I’m able to be there for whether it’s an infant death or, you know, a 101-year-old lady, you know, that worked – that we’re celebrating, you know, I’m there for those families.
The science part, I’m a licensed embalmer and I get to assist in autopsies. It’s very interesting to me and I get to use the science part of my brain. And then, you know, elderly people we’re serving them all the time and I love elderly men, I just think they’re so cute and I get to, you know, help them a lot or even elderly women and it’s just – I don’t know it really makes you appreciate life. Sometimes I think everyone should be a funeral director for a month. Just to hear these stories and to appreciate your life in a different way.
Question: My question for you is what is your most memorable moment of being on The Bachelor?
Shawntel Newton: Well, I think I was saying before was my most memorable was being in Anguilla, not only my date Brad was the perfect date in the whole – my whole entire life. But just the beauty of Anguilla and I’ve never been out of the country and I’ve never been to Vegas either and Vegas was really amazing as well.
But it was exciting to get out of the country and see these amazing different places that expanded just my eyes and I was like, wow, because, you know, I was like I’ve been in Chico most of my life.
I mean, yes, I’ve been to Hawaii and Mexico but this was like, oh, my goodness, here I am able to travel and fall in love with someone and Anguilla, when I think back on this whole experience I think of Anguilla. I think of being there with Brad and being in that farmer’s market.
Question: OK, you did mention you would consider being the next Bachelorette? What do you think will set you apart from the other girls that they’re considering? Well, the hard thing is there are a lot of – there’s good girls.
Shawntel Newton: You know, on the season that I, you know, my season and I think some of it could be that maybe, you know, being emotionally stable because when you’re the Bachelor, Bachelorette you have a lot on your plate and, you know, I think I could handle because sometimes I think oh, my gosh, this would be really hard and, you know, I, gosh it would be just a lot but I think I could emotionally, you know, handle it and still show emotion obviously and definitely be there to fall in love with someone that knows that I’m a funeral director and hopefully, you know, they’re comfortable with that.
Question: You know, this isn’t brought up a lot, but there’s quite a bit of difference of age between most of the girls left and Brad and yourself I think there’s about you’re 25, so there’s about (inaudible) years. Does that ever concern you? I mean when he’s 50 you would have been like 32 or something like that. Was that ever a concern?
Shawntel Newton: You know it’s funny as it wasn’t. When I first got, yes I was in the limo and here this beautiful man is and, you know, as someone said, I think, oh, he’s 37 or 38. It didn’t even cross my mind as far as age goes. It’s kind of like, OK, let’s see how his personality is with mine.
I’m kind of an older 25 I guess you can say but I’m very mature for my age, and he’s obviously very mature anyway but also at the same time he can be this fun like younger kind of kid like and so can I at times and so his age never concerned me. I never thought like oh, my gosh, this guy is like so much older than me.
So it never really crossed my mind in a negative way.
Question: And since you said you’ve never dated a guy like Brad before. What type of personality traits will you look for that you learned from Brad in future potential boyfriends and husbands?
Shawntel Newton: Well, when I had my last – my most previous boyfriend was a couple of years ago. He was someone that needed to be rescued and so being a funeral director I think that came into play there. I thought, oh, my gosh let me take care of you and, you know, that obviously did not work out. I was drowned in the process
And then with Brad, here is this wonderful independent man, which I was very attracted to. He didn’t need me to rescue him in any way and he had, you know, some, you know, sadness with his relationship with his Dad and yet that didn’t make him into this, you know, “woe is me.”
He was very mature about it and we were able to talk about that he’s just a southern gentleman. Not that I have to marry someone from Texas or anything, but his manners were just something I wasn’t used to. And I just really felt like a woman when I was with him and he was funny and yet he was very serious as well and he didn’t look at my job like it was too weird.
Like he was – I loved when we were in Vegas and he was able to ask me questions about embalming -- that was not the usual date conversation that I have, but he was infatuated with it. He wanted to know more and so he’s really set my standards, you know, as far the next guy I’m with.
Question: Well, if Brad, did end up choosing you in the end and you did have to move to Austin do you really think you would have been happy and satisfied in that situation? In that, you would have to forego taking over your family business?
Shawntel Newton: Well, I mean that obviously crossed my mind. I was telling Brad when we were in the mausoleum, I said, let’s say I move to Austin; I could be a trade embalmer in Austin. I love the science part of my job and being a trade embalmer you can go anywhere, you know, with your license and you would just use your prep room skills.
I could do different conventions, different talks, conferences within the funeral industry, you know, being a woman in the business, first of all is very rare and so there is other things I considered doing and I thought, you know, well this is the time to explore other things with him, too.
So, it was just more like, well it’s just – I’m kind of a go-with-the-flow kind of person and I thought, you know, what I think when you’re in love with someone, no matter what you do, things can change and, you know, I just thought well if we go to Austin, I’m just going to make this work, whether I’m a trade embalmer, whether there’s a funeral home there I can open up or if I even – if I’m not in the business and end up becoming just a marriage and family counselor and staying within the realm of the funeral industry.
Does that make sense?
Question: Yes, absolutely and what went through your mind when your father finally gave you and Brad your blessing on behalf of your family despite what he had planned for you?
Shawntel Newton: Well, as you saw the look on my face it was a little concerned at first and then when he gave the blessing I had this huge grin on my face. But it was – it meant a lot to Brad and to myself to have my Dad have all these concerns about, you know, OK, well, wow, you know, you’re going to leave Chico.
We’re just very comfortable here but, you know, what if you want to move to Austin we give you our blessing because we trust you and so if moving to Austin is what you want, then we’ll be behind you so that – and that meant a lot, not only to me but it did to Brad too.
Question: OK, and going off that you previously mentioned your family really like Brad and obviously they did if they gave you guys their blessing. How did your family react when they discovered Brad had not chosen you after the hometown date? I mean, you know, did you think they might secretly have been a little happy about it since, you know, you would have been able to go through with taking over the business or …
Shawntel Newton: I think it was bittersweet. I came home and I think they were a little shocked because they, too, really did think I was going to at least be able to explore a little more like I was saying, you know, I was hoping to even get more time.
I know that word is exhausted -- more time -- I want some more time, but I mean given the circumstance we’re in, but I think that also at the same time they, though you know we’re – I mean in ways yes, we are happy that you’re not going to make this sudden change and move to Austin, but now we do see that maybe there are other things that you might be doing with your life and not just staying here you know in our little town of Chico. So it kind of opened up their eyes and opened up my eyes.
Question: Listen, now that you’ve seen the episode, how do you feel about the way the hometown date was presented with the – you know airing the commercial for your family business and airing the funeral music in the background?
Shawntel Newton: The funeral music in the background was a little much, but I mean, also when I went in on this show, I kind of knew how things like this worked, and I was just like OK, I’m willing to, you know, to do this and take different risks just like with when we saw Emily go on his NASCAR date. There’s certain things that we can’t control and we know that could happen.
As I watched it, you know, I was like well, you know, here my Dad is having a really hard time with this but it’s true, I mean this was a huge shock for my family and, you know, there’s nothing wrong with that. My family, you know, I’m very close with them. I lived in Chico all my life and so when I came home and said, gosh, guys I might be moving to Austin. That was a big shock for them.
And that’s just a – I think that’s a very normal, you know, feeling for a family to be that way when you’re in a situation like us. We’re, you know, we’re a close–knit family. I grew up and was born and raised in Chico and was possibly taking over my Dad’s business and then I’m coming back, you know, after so many weeks and I’m in love and I might move now it’s, you know, it’s a hard thing.
But to have my Dad give a blessing at the end, even though he was concerned and it was scary, that means a lot.
Question: So no hard feelings about, you know, your very real feelings, you know, you’re very – you said you loved him. No hard feelings about that kind of being turned into a can’t be little Addams family kind of thing?
Shawntel Newton: No, I mean, you know, what being a funeral director and my Dad being a funeral director we’ve gotten this all of our lives. Funeral homes, funeral directors have a – you know, people just kind of look at them like, like us, like we’re just creepy and we’re Addams family and we wear all black clothes and we just put people in the ground.
You know, we have a kind of sore name. And I still think regardless of the music, regardless of Brad laying on the table, I really talked about how serious this job is and how serious being a funeral director and, obviously, with my Dad talking about the tragedy that happened while I was gone and how that’s effected the community with you know the mother of my friend dying, wanting me to meet with, you know that was very real.
For the audience to see, as a funeral director you know, what we do and what we, you know, how we can affect our small community that we’re in and, you know, regardless of the crazy music or what not but …but I really think I – you know, I’ve been getting, you know, people that thank me for, wow; you know, you represented this funeral industry very well.
Question: OK, then you told Brad that you loved him when he was leaving your house and he eventually admitted he didn’t feel how he should have felt when a woman tells him that she loves him. So did you get that vibe that he felt that way in the moment or were you really surprised when you discovered that he was kind of taken back by that?
Shawntel Newton: Well, it was kind of both. When I told him that I was in love with him, we had moments to talk, unfortunately, you know, with, you know, our dates and everything is, you know, you don’t get a whole lot of time and so after he met my family and everything, you know, I had these couple of minutes to tell him really how I was feeling and, you know, obviously he can’t say it back which is uncomfortable and difficult already and then when the rose ceremony came I was shocked because I really thought that I was, especially since I opened up to him, that he would explore it a little bit more so we could talk about it more and even talk about the funeral industry, you know, coming to this funeral home and meeting my family and what he really thought about that.
And so that’s why I was shocked and then him telling me, you know, that’s just – I didn’t feel the way a man should feel, I mean now that I look back and when I told him I was in love, I mean maybe just the look on his face was, you know, uncomfortable. I don’t know as I watched it I was like well, I just thought he was just looking at me that way because, you know, he was – he can’t really say a whole lot anyway.
But, you know, maybe he just – obviously he just didn’t feel the same way and that was hard and that’s why in the limo I’m saying, you know, gosh, that was a shock. Because I really thought that not only – and I didn’t use I’m in love with you as like a trick to keep me on there. It was real.
But I just, you know, was shocked that he didn’t want to explore it a little bit more because he kept saying how natural he feels it’s me and, you know, he could see me as his wife and, you know, I’ve completely put all the cards out for him and some of the, you know, some of the girls had it and so I was just like, wow, I’m – I was just surprised, you know, that he sent me home and even though I was like kind of pretty much laid everything out for him.
I hope you enjoyed reading that! Sorry it was posted so late today! I will post more previews of next week's fantasy dates on Sunday and Monday!
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