Full Transcript of Interview with Sarah
Here is the full transcript of the interview with Sarah from "The Bachelor"! I've highlighted in PURPLE Bill King's portion of the conference call.
Question: So, I was actually - when I - my - first of all my heart broke for you. You just - you seemed so genuinely upset in this episode. And it made me wonder like - I really - because the last time we talked to you also, you seemed so pretty genuinely not regretful about your experience. And you know - so I'm wondering if that had changed by this point in the show. And then if it had changed by this point in the show, and if you regretted it, have you kind of come 360 to not regretting it again? Or are you feeling like this was not the right decision to go on the show - or was it the right decision to go on the show?
Sarah Herron: Oh, absolutely not. Like, I have never ever regretted one moment of participating on The Bachelor. It was a really, really incredible experience for me. And you know, I like to say how a lot of times I think this show gets you know, poked fun at for using words like journey and experience and...
So, what I was just going to say about that is it actually is really and truly this life changing journey, and there's no better way to put it. And for me, it was every bit of a life changing experience. And it was very cathartic and self actualizing. And I learned so much about myself and what I'm looking for. And it - you know, (it's helped me) understand me better. And so, in no way do I regret any of the process. I think it all has helped me become who I am today. And you know, that's - it's just part of the learning curve of life. And I don't regret any second of participating on the show.
Question: Do you have a feeling at all that that week or you know, that was your - the end of your time there, that even if you had made it to - even if he let you go to the rose ceremony, that that was the time you would be going home? Or did you feel kind of completely blindsided at the moment, like it was not what you were expecting?
Sarah Herron: I definitely did not expect to be going home. I felt - I was very surprised and very caught off guard. And I did have every intention of wanting to bring Sean home and take him to Colorado and introduce him to my family. However, the week before in Montana, Sean you know, made his speech and said that he'd felt his relationship had taken a step back with a few girls and a step forward with a few other girls.
And there was a part of me, deep down, that was concerned I was - I might have been one of those girls that he was talking about. Because we were now you know, five weeks into the process or so, and it becomes difficult to continue to develop these relationships while he's developing relationships with the other girls.
So, I definitely was a little uneasy when he said he felt his relationships had taken a step back. And that's why, in Canada, I felt it - extremely important to reassure him why I was there and that I had the right intentions and that my heart was in it and I wanted to take it to the next step.
Question: So, I just want to ask you a little bit about you know, why you were so upset when Sean eliminated you. You said in your final words that you know, you were very embarrassed but I guess, was that the only reason or was there more to it than that? Like, had you actually fallen in love with Sean at that point, and is that what made you so upset?
Sarah Herron: I had very strong feelings for Sean. And I think it's just - it's human nature to feel embarrassed when you're - you know, dumped on television and you cry, and you let yourself be as vulnerable as I let myself be. You know, I don't think I've ever let America - or let alone my coworkers and friends see me as vulnerable as I was on the show. And so, you just feel a little embarrassed that you put it all out there and somebody didn't want to take it all in. And so, it was just - it was hard. And yes, it's just - it was a little embarrassing.
Question: And you know, Sean kind of thought he was doing you a favor by sending you home two days early. But at the same time, you know, he kind of singled you out and you know, kind of put you in front of the girls and (it might) - obviously, you said it was embarrassing for you, so I guess - do you agree with Sean's theory that it was best for you, in the end, to let you go two days early? Or looking back on things, do you kind of wish (he just) had stuck you around and allowed you to go through the rose ceremony and kind of go quietly? Do you know what I mean?
Sarah Herron: Absolutely not. I think Sean handled it the best way. He and I actually did have a conversation. And I said you know, if I'm one of these girls that you ever feel our relationship is taking a step back, I want to talk about it, and I want to know about it. And I think we can communicate about what's going on. And please just - I don't want to be the last girl standing at a rose ceremony without a rose, without an explanation, just you know, completely shocked.
So, he knew that I was asking for an explanation. And I think that's what he gave me. And he said here's a girl who doesn't want to be you know, strung along, and she wants to be told how it is. And he respected that. And I think it's great. And I - even though I'm not happy with the way things turned out, I respect the way he handled it. And he - I don't think he could have done it any better.
Question I wanted to ask you about Tierra's little medical emergency on the last episode. Did you believe...she was suffering from hypothermia? You were you know - since you were right there watching it all?
Sarah Herron: I think - we were all very, very cold. And knowing Tierra the way I know her now, I think she's just a very high (and sensitive) person. And she was under a lot of stress and a lot of pressure. And I think the circumstances of the group date, combined with everything that she's probably going through emotionally and psychologically, it just kind of all combusted.
And whether she overreacted or actually had hypothermia, I'm not sure. And quite frankly, at this point, I don't even really care anymore, because it just seems like every week, something - it was something else. Whereas, you know, the rest of us had no problem just embracing the cold and absorbing the adrenalin you were getting from it. It seemed - it just seemed overdramatic when she got sick.
Question: So, yes, that's how it appeared on TV. And then, obviously, you don't really know what was going through his mind, but it was such a surprise to see that Sean sent Selma home. And I was wondering if you thought that had to do with the fact that she decided not to take part in the polar bear plunge?
Sarah Herron: Yes. I have no idea what Sean's real reasonings were for sending Selma home. I think there's probably more to it than I know or any of the other girls understand or America. And definitely, maybe not participating in the polar bear plunge contributed to it, because I thing Sean really wants a girl that can you know, go with the flow and is down for some adventure. And Selma wasn't really having it.
But at the same time, like, I can't blame her. And I don't think Sean blames her, (that's just not) who she is. And she was not - she wasn't sorry about it. And she stuck to her guns. And you have to respect that. And you know I - for whatever reason they didn't work out. I'm not sure, but I'm sure there's plenty of (good reason).
Question: OK, so we want to know who you feel is best for Sean to end up with and why? And do you think they will last?
Sarah Herron: Oh, you know, watching back, I'm really starting to see the chemistry build between Sean and Catherine, which I didn't (see a whole) lot of while I was you know, in the filming process. And watching it back, I'm seeing like this really special connection between the two of them that's undeniable. And I think - I think it's great. What I'm seeing between Sean and Catherine looks pretty great.
And as far as him lasting with whoever he chooses, I think it - he will, because Sean said you know, he only wants to be engaged once. And he's not in it to mess around. He's really looking for his wife. So, I think Sean is the type of guy who's going to be very selective in who he chooses and then he's going to nurture and make sure that the relationship can withstand anything. I think, you know, he'll make it work.
Question: OK. And with all the drama with Tierra, do you think - do you still think Sean will be able to find lasting love?
Sarah Herron: With Tierra?
Sarah Herron: I don't see Tierra and Sean being much of a match at all. I think - I think he's probably very surprised, watching it back now, because I don't think he saw much of what we saw Tierra as in the house. You know, he wasn't - he wasn't seeing that. He made that clear in Tuesday's episode that he was starting to realize - he was getting a different Tierra than the girls in the house were. So, I don't - I don't personally feel a lasting connection between the two of them.
Bill King: So, a lot of what we saw of you on the show revolved around your arm. And it seemed like yourself consciousness about it came up pretty frequently, particularly with the various physical activities. Now, obviously, something you've dealt with your entire life, and I'm just wondering if that's something that actually affects your confidence on a daily basis? Or if it's something that you're more or less at peace with and it was more or less for TV?
Sarah Herron: That's a good question. Definitely, having one arm has always, always affected my self confidence. And it's definitely given me insecurities. But I have come (to peace) with it. And I know how to be myself and you know, not let it be an obstacle in my life.
And on the show, I think it came - it became a big topic, because we constantly were in these physical activities. I mean let's be honest, every single group date was you know, ok, let's milk a goat. Well, guess what, you have to have two hands to milk a goat. And canoeing, you know, I did it, but it was tough.
It - you know, nothing came easy for me. And that's ok. And I expected that that might have happened, going into the show. But you know, really, I can't say oh the show made it look like I was always talking about my arm, because really and truly, I was in situations where my arm affected my ability to participate. And it affected my confidence with Sean. So, it just was kind of unusual and unfortunate how often it came to light. But really, my day to day life is not revolved around the fact that I have one arm.
Bill King: OK. And, I think that - I mean, the viewers and America really took a liking to you. And I'm wondering if the opportunity came up to be the bachelorette, if that would be something that you would be interested in? Or if you're kind of done with the TV love thing?
Sarah Herron: I think I would have to (seriously) consider it, because, as I mentioned earlier, the experience was probably one of the most life changing experiences of my life. And like I said, I learned more about myself than I could have ever imagined. And I became more vulnerable than I've ever - being with anybody in my life.
I mean you have to consider that up until this show, I never walked around talking about my arm to anybody, anybody. And now, I can open - really talk about it. And you know, my coworkers suddenly feel more comfortable and confident talking to me about questions they might have always had, but never felt comfortable asking me.
And I feel like the show has been an outlet for just a lot of like, self discovery. On - however, I don't - I don't want to just sit around talking about my arm forever. And I don't know if I could do another whole season of that, but at the same time, like I still want to find love. Let's look at the big picture here, I'm still single. And I do want a boyfriend. And I want a husband. And I want to find that special guy. So, you know, there's still a lot to consider.
Question: So, Sean kind of seemed to determine he wanted to eliminate you when it kind of hit home for him that he may not be ready to meet your family, after you showed him all those photos. So, do you think things might have played out differently had you waited to show him the pictures until a little later on? Or, have you thought about that at all?
Sarah Herron: Yes. I've definitely thought about that. And I don't think it would have changed Sean's mind. I think Sean had a pretty good idea about his feelings for me, and his feelings for the other women. And you know, the process of this show, it moves so fast, and you need to be confident and sure of how you're feeling.
And whether I showed him photos of my family on night one or you know, at the fantasy suite, I don't think those photographs changed how he was feeling about me. I think he knew how he felt. And the photographs just probably made him realize, ok, I need to be honest with this girl sooner than later, because I don't want to hurt her.
Question: (All right). And you said in your final words, it's just sad to think about why Sean, you know, saw something in you and felt something for you at the beginning of the season, and I'm sure you've often reflected on your experience since then, and probably replayed things in your mind over the past few months, so, do you kind of a theory...on why Sean might have had the change of heart? Like it sounds like you started thinking his feelings might have changed during the week in Montana, based upon what you're saying. So, was it just because maybe you hadn't got in a lot of alone time with him at that point?
Sarah Herron: Yes. I think - I think honestly, getting the first one on one date, as incredible and magical as it was, I think it was kind of a curse, because we've - had an amazing connection right off the bat, and then I had to sit back and you know, just wait for him to develop these relationships with all of the other women, who each week, I'm sure, a new girl is like stepping into the - into the forefront.
And so, it was just like with each week it became more and more difficult to sustain a connection while he was being introduced to all these other women. And it just - it got - it gets really hard. And I don't have the answer and that's why I was so confused. And it's hard to understand how somebody can like you so much in the beginning and feelings fizzle.
I mean I think that's true for anybody in any relationship that's not worked out. You're always left wondering why. Well, why not? Like, you used to like me so much. You used to love me, and why do you not now? So, it's just a very, very confusing and sad feeling.
Bill King: I'm just wondering with Tierra kind of being the center of attention so much, how difficult is it to kind of ignore her and not get distracted by the antics and focus on Sean? And is that something that you all discussed in the house to kind of stay focused and not let it you know, make you as - look like the drama queens instead of Tierra?
Sarah Herron: Absolutely. I mean, we'd all just - we discussed, numerous times, how not just pertaining to Tierra, but just each other. We didn't want to get involved in anyone's issues in the house. And we tried very hard just to stay focused on our individual connections with Sean and keep the house politics separate.
But at the same time, like I was Tierra's roommate when we were traveling. And I was there with her through a lot of her like struggles and her you know, melt downs. And I saw a different side to Tierra. So, I didn't - you know - I didn't want to ignore her, because in a sense she was my friend and we befriended each other, but you just got to stay out of that. I you know, I never once talked to Sean about Tierra. That's not what I was there to do. I don't think any of us really ever wanted to talk to Sean about Tierra, so (you) just kind of ignore it, you try your hardest.
Question: You mentioned you weren't (aware) of the connection that Sean had with Catherine until now when you're watching the season unfold. What can you tell us about Catherine, because until this week, viewers also haven't gotten to see much of her and she had never gotten a one on one date until recently?
Sarah Herron: Yes. Catherine was kind of like - until this point, has been a little of a dark horse. You know, she hasn't gotten too much airtime, and in the house, she wasn't even getting much time with Sean. So, it's really interesting and exciting to see it all unfold. And I'm happy for her, because you know, it's hard to see Sean developing these feelings with girls, but I watched their date in Canada, and it's just hard - it's - I don't know, it warms me inside to watch them and know that they were developing this great connection, because they didn't see it in the house.
She was one of the last girls to get a one on one. And so it just makes me happy to see that they were - they were building those feelings. And Catherine is such a down to earth real, real girl that it just makes me happy to see she got to open up with Sean.
Question: OK. And what about some of the other girls? You've talked a little bit about Tierra already, so what about like (Ashley), Lindsay, Lesley and Desiree? I guess - do you have any general thoughts on those girls? Do any of them stand out to us as being better for Sean than the others?
Sarah Herron: I always have thought Lesley is a great connection for Sean. You know, it's so interesting now that I am no longer on it and I don't know what happens, but I think Leslie is great. And I think Lindsay's tremendous. Lindsay was probably one of my better friends in the house. She's such a sweet girl and has the biggest heart. She's just like this tiny ball of fun and so, she's wonderful.
And (Ashley) has the biggest heart, obviously, everyone is seeing that. And Desiree's fun and spunky and very real. Daniella is awesome, but she - I think she went home after me too, I guess so - who - am I (missing) anybody? They're all - I mean the girls are all so great. I loved all of them.
Question: OK. And just one thing quick, you know, a lot of viewers have been saying that they think (Ashley) might be a little too intense for Sean, I guess - what are your - what are your thoughts on that? Do you agree, disagree?
Sarah Herron: I could see that. I could definitely see that. (Ashley) is a very sincere, big hearted woman, but she's serious. And she's not a group follower. She's not loads of fun so I mean I - she's just not like super energetic. She's just more like a calm, reserved, eloquent person, and that's great. But I think Sean really is looking for someone to bring the adventure and the fun. So, I'm not sure how that's going to play out very well?
Question: Hey, there. I don't want to beat a dead horse about this Tierra thing, but for me, it's like people keep saying oh, well - and by people I mean the girls in the house, keep saying you know, oh, he sees a different side of her. And she's not showing him his true colors. But to me, I watch it and I think - I don't know what he even sees in her with what she is showing him, because she just seems crazy and needy and full of drama.
So, what do you think it is that Sean sees in her and keeps her around for anyway? I mean other than what you guys - you know, the side of her that you guys saw, and the fact that there are - seem to be two different sides, what is it you think that he - is it just that you think he's attracted to her physically? Or is it something else, because to me I just don't get it at all.
Sarah Herron: I am not sure. Honestly, like, I am just as much in the dark as you are. I don't - she's sweet. And you know, she can be beautiful and - but I don't know. I don't know what it is. And I saw in the promo for next week's episode that he says he's crazy about her, and that just blows my mind. I don't know - I don't know what it is. I've - I don't know what their connection is. I wish I could tell you. I wish I had some insight to it. I don't know.
Question: And then you know, when your - I guess break up - for lack of a better term, was happening, you - you know, you kind of said you know, I'm tired of this happening. Like, I know what you're going to say I mean...it kind of seemed like you felt like this was the same old story, just another time, you know, different dude, same story.
Sarah Herron: Yes.
Question: Do - what was it about that that you felt like was you know, common to other break ups? Or do you kind of think - as you think back on it now, that that's not - wasn't his intention or that wasn't the same story, different dude?
Sarah Herron: No, I think it was same story different dude. Honestly, I have - I - it - it saddened me to think that I've been through that situation so many times. But I can't tell you how many times I will begin to date a guy and start going down this road and get the same story you know, several weeks into it. You're great. You're funny. You're sweet. You have the biggest heart, but there just isn't a connection. Or you know, I'm not right for you. And you (deserve) someone so much better and you deserve someone who's going to treat you amazing.
I've been told that more times than I can count. And I think a lot of girls can relate to that. We've probably all been told that at some point. But I feel like, for whatever reason, it just happens all the time to me. And so, I knew where Sean was going. And the second he sat me down, I knew what he was going to do. I knew he was sending me home.
And it's just like is aid on the show, I knew what he was going to say but I wanted to hear his explanation because I'm just - it was like dŽjˆ vu. I've been there. I've sat in that very same place so many times, and I always get the same answer. And so, I just wanted to hear it again, I guess to - I don't know - just - I just don't know why - I don't know why I keep getting told that.
Question: Do you think that if Sean - I mean I've met Sean on a couple of occasions. I certainly don't know him as well as you know, other people and - but he does come off as a very earnest person to me. And he does sort of come off as someone who is really truly looking for a wife and wants a family and wants to do all these things.
So, do you feel like maybe with other guys, that has been sort of a fall back line, but maybe with Sean, he really truly was just like I'm not feeling a connection, and yet I respect this girl. And I want to let her down softly and as quickly as I know, because I don't want to lead her on and I don't want to hurt her feelings?
Sarah Herron: Yes, I mean I don't think it's like a fall back line for a lot of guys. I think they do usually feel that way, and they do have respect for me. And I think Sean did. And let me tell you, there are no hard feelings. I'm not mad at Sean. And like I said, I respect that he was honest with me and that he didn't string me along. And he's only human. And I know the objective why he was on the show.
You know, we all know he's there looking for his wife and so, I can't blame him for not feeling it with me. I think it's not fair to say like oh, he was just you know, giving me the same line that every guy does, because I know that's what I said. But he deserves more credit than that. He was sweet and honest about it.
But I'm just saying from a personal standpoint, I am confused why I always get told that. Like, I'm confused why none of the guys in my life have ever felt like I am that guy that deserves you. And I'm going to be the guy that treats you amazing. That's what confuses me and makes me sad. So, there's no hard feelings toward Sean. And I don't blame him, like I said, I just - I'm confused, from my perspective you know, who this guy is going to be and when he's going to come along.
Question: Well, I wish you luck in finding him...
Sarah Herron: Thank you.
Also, in case you haven't heard, on Tuesday, February 19th there will be a special "The Bachelor: Sean Tell's All" special on from 9 p.m. - 10 p.m. on ABC! Double "Bachelor" week again! Woo-hoo!
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